Creating Boundaries On Social Media
Grief can be a lonely and scary journey. There may be times it may seem natural to want to share your experience online via social media; however, this method can also backfire. And in turn, this stress from social media might impact your healing. For example, your intent might be to keep the memory of your loved one alive in a positive light, but in doing so you discover others do not share your same sentiment. Sound harsh?
While doing research for my book, “A Widow’s Guide to Healing,” several widows shared that they found unfavorable comments about their spouse within social media platforms. One widow said she shared her husband’s professional photograph and his colleagues recognized the picture. Some had the audacity to comment that their company was better off without him.
And yet, social media can be a positive experience as well. For example, someone may share a story about your loved one that you never heard before or you may see a your loved one in a photograph that brings back a positive memory.
Here are five things to keep in mind when using social media after the death of your loved one:
1. Your information is not confidential. Before sharing your family secrets be very cautious. While you may have taken every safety precaution to set appropriate settings on your account, it is possible for someone you know to take a screenshot of your post and share that with others. It is also possible that someone prints off your post and gives it someone else, including your children.
2. Your friends and family may not agree with your post. You may be inclined to share thoughts and feelings about your loved one or the circumstances of your loved one’s death online and assume others share your sentiments, but this might not be true. This can lead to hurt feelings.